Family traditions in Japan
Mother and child — do not spill water
Women with babies everywhere — it is certainly not the first thing that can at once be evident, for example, in Tokyo, but still a lot of them, and not only on the streets and in the parks. These tiny Japanese women with the precious burden on his chest everywhere — in supermarkets, hairdressers, subway, in all public places. Women typically carry children in slings or backpacks special front or behind you. Even Japanese designers have designed jackets and coats for active moms with special inserts, pockets, to toddler, sitting comfortably on the breast, was protected from the weather. From the outside it looks funny and unusual for our European eyes. So go in the crowd of passers-by in rainy cloudy day, and you scurry past the two-headed creation in the hoods is a doting mother hurry, as usual with their children, in jackets from Japanese fashion Designers entertainers.
Generally very close contact of mother and child in the first years of his life is the basic rule in relation to the baby. When a Japanese girl decides to have a baby, she already psychologically ready to dedicate myself to this new little man, giving my body, my care and attention at his disposal. She cannot do otherwise, because she was trained from childhood to be a mother.
The Patriarchal order in a Japanese family
In the East, as nowhere else, alive national traditions passed from generation to generation.
However, the modern Japanese family, despite existing respect to traditions, of course, is very different from the ancient “cell of society”. In General, the peculiar mentality of Japanese people — collective thinking. From early childhood they are brought up in the consciousness that you must be part of the group that alone in this world to live. That is why it is important for the Japanese, a solid family life.
A few centuries ago, traditional Japanese family was not just big, but very big. Under one roof or roofs of neighboring houses lived in by several generations of one family — from their great-grandparents to the youngest grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Man — grandfather, father or eldest son — was the head of the family. His will obeyed, but he also carried the responsibility for the Affairs of the whole family and for each member. Interestingly, older fathers gladly passed on to their heirs — eldest sons — the reins of government, once the latter had shown its worth in the management of all Affairs of the family. In addition to obedience to the head of the family acted hierarchy: all women are subordinate to men, Junior — senior. The exception in this rung were children up to five-six years, all of which were allowed.
Today Patriarchal traditions are manifested not so much in the way of the modern Japanese family. Nevertheless, man is still the master of the house, and the woman plays the role of homemakers, whose primary responsibility is the education of children. Changed only the number of family members and the fact that young people marry for love and not by parental choice. By the way, the average age of the family is constantly growing, due to the increased life expectancy of the Japanese. In this hierarchy of subordination of all Junior — senior also preserved.
For clarity, let’s try to describe how to start any lunch or dinner in a Japanese home. Note that today the average family in the Country of the rising sun consists of only four or five people — two parents and three children. First Japanese woman delivers the cooked dish to her husband. Served by second eldest son. At least the food gets the second oldest child, who is often called a funny nickname, translated from Japanese meaning “Chilled rice.” By the way, the smallest member of the family is thus maintained regardless of the queue because he is not obliged to obey and wait for something.
The little Emperor of Japan
In continuation of our journey in Japan will visit the hairdresser’s often frequented by young mothers with small children. Look around — in one of the chairs sits a small woman, whose hair casts a spell over the wizard. Nearby is the three year old: while he patiently and quietly waiting, and then proceeds to Unscrew the lids of jars and tubes of creams and their contents draw on the mirror. All around, only smiles fondly, absolutely still reacting to the antics of a child. Imagine what would have been the reaction of our compatriots, if all this happened in a Russian Barber shop. It’s all in the rules of the traditional upbringing of children, their roots going deep into history.
Up to five or six kids nothing is forbidden, do not raise your voice, not punished. Educate the child by showing your own example of conduct that is an example of the behavior of the mother, because she is always near, and the father communicates with the child on weekends only. With the birth of the baby the mother, even doing chores around the house, carry it everywhere — on the chest or behind the back. She talks to him, explaining what she was doing, where they go and what is happening around. Japanese kid sings the songs and repeats the words that he must utter in the first place. In the end, it turns out that children in Japan are starting to speak faster than walking.
The baby sleeps in the parental bed next to the mother on demand breastfeeds. Japanese women, having children, quitting your job and fully devote herself to raising kids. Of course, if necessary, the Japanese can go to work, however it would imply that part-time work, and priority will still manage the household and care for.
Typically, up to three years women sit with their children at home, and if you give into the garden, just for a few hours. In these gardens with the kids doing their all-round development, teaching etiquette and basic rules of conduct. The mother also may be present in the classroom, engaging in all kinds of games, then transferring the resulting experience home. There is in Japan, and gardens, who take children for the whole day, however, in order to give there kid, you first need to prove that both parents work more than four hours a day. And a woman who come to work, sending a young child in a garden, will look askance and would not approve of her actions.
Little children in Japan are practically not crying, they just do not give, anticipating and fulfilling all desires children. It happens to five-six years because at this age the child enters the school under a burden of strict rules and regulations. The Japanese are collectivists to the core, a common interest for them in the first place, that’s probably why they are so far gone in its technological development from Europe. If a woman in Japan cares primarily about families, every male Japanese lives and interests of the company in which he works.